So here’s a question. What are the rules when it comes to daily talking? Is whatsapp okay? Is gchat okay? Or is seeing each other’s face the only thing that counts as talking? Do these apply when we are traveling?
Guys in general I think HATE talking on the phone….please share some insight!!
Life Boss says:
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to communication – it depends on the couple and each person’s needs. Some people are sufficient with just texting, whereas others want more. Its up to the couple to work out a way that suits both partners.
It depends on the distance and length of time the couple is away from each other as well. Say if they are apart for a few days, then texting might be OK. But if they are constantly apart for extended lengths of time, texting may not be enough.
Texting is curated. There is no spontaneity since the texter has time to think about each message. There is a barrier and you don’t see or hear the non-verbal cues or emotions from the other person.
How can a couple sustain a close relationship if they are constantly away from each other and they only communicate through short texts?
PS: this is not a gender thing. Some guys love talking on the phone and conversely some girls hate it.
Texting is a form of communication.
Talking on the phone there is still a barrier aka my phone.
and to your question “How can a couple sustain a close relationship if they are constantly away from each other and they only communicate through short texts?”
Its all about the emotional connection, doesn’t need to be physical.
Life Boss says:
I do agree texting is a form of communication and there are great benefits to it.
Its just not enough in certain situations, i.e. if one person is always away. True, there is a barrier with chatting on the phone but its a step up from texting since you can hear the person’s voice/emotions and responses are not premeditated.
You might have a point.
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